It is quite obvious today that many Christians are losing their children. There is nothing in their life to give rise to the hope that they are bound for Heaven. In the light of Prov. 22:6 it appears that they are not being raised in the way they "should go" or they would not depart from the Lord. I would like to look at some of the reasons why Christians are losing their children.
1. They Will Not Make Them Attend All the Services.
As long as they live in your home and receive all the benefits of that home, they must be made to be in all the church meetings. You are not to sit around and lament their lack of spirituality, church attendance is required whether they are loving it or not.
2. They Will Not Throw Out the Television Set. [written in 1990]
The sin box is the greatest detriment to your child's salvation that you can have in your house. The Lord's name is taken in vain and you sit there and do nothing. Fornication comes into your living room and your children are feeding on it until they become inflamed and strike out after the world.
3. They Will Not Keep Them from Dating the Lost.
We are commanded to keep our children from marrying the lost (2 Cor. 6:14; Deut. 7:3, 4). Since dating always precedes marriage we must not allow them to date the unsaved while they are under our roof.
4. They Will Not Have Meaningful Family Devotions.
Most Christians have no Family devotions at all. When they do become convicted about it they often have it just so they can say they did it. The Father should see that a meaningful time of Bible reading and prayer is conducted with questions and answers for all to profit.
5. They Will Not Spank Their Children.
A father who does not spank his children does not love them (Prov. 13:24). A failure to discipline will lead to a surly manner and lack of respect. Overlooking disobedience will lead to open defiance in the teen years. It is great wisdom on the part of a parent to spank the child (Prov. 19:18; 23:13, 14).
6. They Will Not Enroll Them in a Christian School.
Fathers who keep their children in public school for sports are very foolish. There is nothing spiritual about sports in a Pagan school house. Enter them in a Christian school and don't ask them whether they want to go—just do it. Cancel your IRA, trade down the car, sell the house, do what you have to do, but don't let the heathen have them to educate (Jer. 10:2).
7. They Set Such a Poor Example before Them.
Space will not permit the listing of things we do that keep our children from coming to the Lord Jesus. We sin, and we do not care, and our children are watching. Our failure in church attendance shows them how serious we are about "serving the Lord." We do not want them to be "so wicked," but we do not want to be "so spiritual."
8. They Have Taught Them to Love the World and Its Things.
We talk about Heaven but our real love is for the world and all of its things (I John 2:15-17; have you ever memorized this passage?) The Lord Jesus came to extricate us from this world (Gal. 1:4) but we are spiritual adulterers who dive back into it (James 4:4). Our children need to see us turn a deaf ear to the world as it calls to us.
9. They Will Not Keep Mom in the Home.
A mother, who is uncorrupted by the world, can keep the home a spiritual retreat. The day we sent Mom out to work to gather the things of this world, was the day we started to lose our chi1dren.
10. They Stay in a Compromising Church.
Parents who stay in the wrong church are courting disaster with their children. The greatest need in their life is for a good fundamental, Bible preaching church. You are compromising to stay in it, but when your children grow up, they will leave church altogether.
11. They Will Not Ban Trashy Music in the Home.
Many a Christian home contains the Devil's music. The ungodly rock stars are the children's heroes. Mom and Dad do not have enough courage to throw it out. Children are on the broad road to Hell and no one objects.
12. The Parental Roles Are Reversed.
The man is in subjection to his wife and she is the head of the house. It is contrary to God's plan and the children know it. They have no respect for Dad and they hate Mom.
13. They Abandoned Their Children to "Serve the Lord."
Many parents have been told that they should be out every night serving the Lord and God will take care of their children. There is no Bible reason to believe that leaving the home every night for Deacon's Meeting, Visitation, Bus meetings, Planning meetings, Missionary Society meetings, etc, will help your children come to the Lord. A child "left to himself" will still bring "his mother to shame" (Prov. 29:15).
We are losing our children. When are we going to make up our mind to do something about it?
From "Handfuls On Purpose," March-April, 1990. A publication of Race Street Baptist Church, Catasauqua, PA.
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